Muslim Matchmaker (2025) s01e07 Episode Script

1
[upbeat pop music playing
Devin Hoffman "We'll Figure It Out"]
Goin' nowhere
Gettin' nervous ♪
No mistakin' ♪
There's no way
to be sure of it ♪
Yum.
Have you been on blind dates before,
or is this your first?
-I've never been on a blind date before.
-Okay.
-What about you?
-This is my first blind date, too.
-Yeah?
-Yeah.
So, if you had to leave a date,
a first date,
how would you, um,
end the date in the middle of it
and leave?
Like, what would be
your strategy?
Are you sourcing answers
from me?
No, I want to know
what to expect.
-Oh, I see. Okay, gotcha.
-You know, like, so I can predict.
[Bucky] Okay, um
well, there's always
the classic,
"I have to go
to the bathroom."
Then you jump out of a window.
I'd notice if you took your jacket
with you to the bathroom.
Depends on how bad the date is.
I might leave it.
-Oh, man. Okay.
-Yeah.
-It's a nice jacket. So, okay.
-Thank you.
-Okay, confession?
-Yeah.
Sometimes, if I'm going
on a date with someone,
and I'm just not sure
how it's gonna go,
I will bring my pager with me.
[chuckles]
-And just pretend like it buzzed.
-That is smart.
I'd be like,
"Oh, I'm so sorry.
I have to go take this page."
[laughs]
[Bucky]
I'm cautiously optimistic.
It took a little time for the conversation
to kind of pick up,
but then it became
really comfortable.
I think we have a lot in common.
Two more years of residency,
and then you'll find
a gig there.
-That's the plan, yeah.
-Okay. Very cool. Very cool.
-What about you?
-I have a health care company.
-Oh! How fitting.
-So, I'm not a physician.
I'm not. I'm
I do not have the work ethic
to go down that path.
-I'm sure you do. Yeah.
-[Rehan laughs]
And we actually started
in the basement of a masjid.
-Aw Mashallah.
-[Rehan] For six months,
we didn't have
much budget for this.
We were just bootstrapping it.
Didn't, uh, Microsoft start
in someone's garage?
-It did, yeah.
-[Bucky] Right?
-So, basement, masjid, garage.
-[Rehan] Yeah.
That's how all the greats
get started, clearly.
-Yes, it's not a bad story. [chuckles]
-[Bucky] Yeah, yeah.
I think he's cute. Yeah.
I think he's cute. Mm.
So, what do you do for fun?
So, I guess my main hobby
is stand-up.
-Stand-up? Oh, my.
-I do stand-up comedy. Yeah.
A doctor
and a stand-up comedian.
Well, I could say laughter
is the best medicine,
but then you'd think
I'm really cheesy, and you'd leave,
-so I'm not going to say that.
-That's a pretty good line.
Do you talk about bad dates
as part of your material?
-Is that, like
-[Bucky] I do.
Okay, okay.
Uh, she's really pretty.
Um, she had a lot of confidence,
and I would say
it exceeded expectations.
[Bucky]
Are you from around here?
-[Rehan] I am from Chicago.
-Oh.
-Okay. Nice.
-[Rehan] Yeah. Yeah.
-Have you been to Chicago?
-I haven't.
-[Rehan] You haven't been to Chicago?
-I haven't.
Maybe we can change that.
-[laughs]
-Maybe. Maybe. Hm?
[interviewer]
He already has. [laughs] So
[theme music playing]
[theme music concludes]
[upbeat pop music playing]
The fact that I'm going to be matched
with somebody I have no clue
Does it worry me? Yes. Um
There's a tinge of excitement,
and then there's like
a tinge of like, "What?"
You know, you're like,
"Wait, this could be like
This could just
go horribly wrong."
Well, I don't know.
Um [chuckles]
It's happening.
Oh, my God.
Because I
Honestly, I can't even.
Let's just go.
[chuckles]
I'm just gonna go.
[sighs] Oh, my gosh.
[interviewer]
[upbeat pop music playing
Joseph De La Hoyde "Take Me Back in Time"]
Afraid of how I feel ♪
I know for me it's real ♪
Take me back in time
I know it's worth the line ♪
I'll change all their minds ♪
-Hey, assalamu alaikum.
-How are you?
I'm good. Um
I'm here for the
for the first date.
I'm nervous, but I'm excited.
Um, we're going go-karting.
So fun. I love that.
-Yeah.
-What are you nervous about?
'Cause it's been a while since
I've, like, been out there.
-So, it almost feels like
-Yeah.
kind of like
I have to ride the bike
with training wheels again.
You know what I mean?
But I guarantee you,
he's probably just as nervous as you are.
-So, keep that in mind.
-Um, well, you know,
it feels like
I mean, it feels like Yeah
I don't know what he looks like
or anything. So, like
I don't want to tell you because
I want you to just kind of go in
not knowing much so that you don't
have any, like, expectations.
Um, do you have any, like,
tips or anything for me?
Yeah, I mean, just try to let
this first meeting be just, like, easy.
You don't have to find out
everything about him.
There's no pressure for you to,
like, figure anything out.
You know, the first date, I think a lot
of us expect it to be, like, amazing
and sparks and butterflies,
but that really doesn't have to be there.
Just let the conversation flow
and act as if you're meeting a friend.
Okay, but I'm not going
to let him win.
Is what I'm hearing?
Keep it easy, but don't let him win.
-Yeah. Absolutely. [laughs]
-Yeah. He can bite my dust.
Yeah. Yeah. Okay.
I think you're going to have
a great time.
And regardless, like, at least
you went go-karting. [laughs]
Inshallah. [laughs]
[sighs]
I wanted to poop my pants.
-Hello, you must be Yasmine.
-Hey, yeah! You're Adnan?
-I'm Adnan. Nice to meet you.
-Assalamu alaikum.
-How's it going? Walaikum assalam.
-It's going good.
You've been go-karting before?
I have, but not, like,
at a track this cool.
-So, yeah, looking forward to it.
-Yeah, let's do it.
-Get ready to lose.
-Let's do it.
-Yeah. Go around this way?
-Helmets?
-Yeah.
-I need a big one.
Where are the big ones?
Am I a medium one?
I think I'm going to go for large.
I'm struggling with the helmet.
He puts his helmet on
and just, like, walks away.
Okay. I'm good.
-Good?
-Good.
And I don't want
to point out the negatives,
but these are just things that
came up to me that was, like [sighs]
[upbeat pop music playing]
[Yasmine laughs]
[Yasmine] No!
[Yasmine chuckles]
[laughs]
-[sighs] That was fun.
-That was great.
You you're a close second.
Yeah. Two out of two.
[Yasmine laughs]
I like the competitive nature.
I like that she's, uh,
not just passive about it,
and she was trying to win, I could tell.
I'm competitive as well.
I kind of lost her for a bit,
so I like that, though.
So, what did you think
about the go-karting?
Oh, I love go-karting. Um,
I think you did pretty good. I thought
I thought I was winning,
but then you got me.
I did forget I was on a date
for a second.
-Yeah. [chuckles]
-Just a second.
I was like, "Adnan is somewhere
around here." [laughs]
It was the most serious
go-karting I've ever done, so
So, I lived in Turkey
for a while.
Just like, there was nothing
to do, really, in Turkey.
So, I would just go go-karting.
-Were you in Istanbul?
-I was in Istanbul.
For what? [laughs]
Oh [laughs]
I So, I moved in, like, 2018.
Okay.
-I was married previously.
-Mm.
I had moved there for that
for the marriage.
Um
So, have you been
married before?
I have not, no.
-Cool, cool.
-Yeah.
Sorry, this is my first time
being on, like, a date since my divorce
-from Klair, so
-Oh, wow. Okay. Yeah.
-I'm doing okay? Yeah?
-[laughs]
-I think we're doing okay.
-[laughs]
Okay. We'll take it. [laughs]
I was wondering
where are you from?
-Oh, I'm I'm North African.
-Moroccan?
-Algerian.
-Algerian.
-How about you?
-Bosnian.
-Bosnian. I've been to Bosnia.
-[chuckles] Really?
Yeah. It's so underrated
and so beautiful.
-Yeah.
-I learned how to say, Hvala na pitanju.
Very well. I cannot say
I've been to Algeria.
I have been to Morocco.
So, close enough.
[sighs]
The more we spoke, the more
I just felt like this
something is off,
and I couldn't really put a finger on it.
Maybe it's
a cultural difference
Maybe.
-You're well-traveled, it sounds like.
-Yeah.
-Have you been to Australia?
-I have.
Dang.
I went there for soccer,
believe it or not.
Wait, Adnan, you were, like,
a professional soccer player?
Well, I I briefly played
professionally after college,
but soccer is, like, my main thing.
I play every weekend.
I'm actually missing a game
today because I'm here, but, uh
Okay. Okay.
Yeah.
Do you have pets?
No.
Hmm. What do you do for work?
-I do management consulting.
-Okay.
-Yeah.
-Okay.
You know what that is? [laughs]
Management consulting?
So, you, like, help consult
with managers to do management.
Yeah, that's, like,
literally the job.
I'm gonna steal a churro
if you don't mind.
Yes, please.
Go straight for the dessert.
Feeling in a sweet mood.
I'm just missing
the chocolate dipping sauce.
I'm actually not a fan
of chocolate.
Oh. That's a red flag.
[laughs]
Yeah.
I would like to check in
with the matchmaker
before the next date, for sure,
to just kind of talk through
a couple things.
And I like to take some time
to see how I'm feeling about it.
Anything else you want to ask?
No. Nothing comes to mind
right now. But
Well, cool. Great to
great to meet you. And, yeah
In the flesh.
[announcer]
All drivers, session 72B.
[upbeat pop music playing]
It hasn't been easy
in no way ♪
Don't think even for a moment
That you're here alone ♪
If you need some comfort
to get through ♪
I got you
Yeah, I got you ♪
My name is Imran.
I live in San Francisco, California.
I am a technology consultant,
and I'm 26 years old.
I have been on the apps, um,
but the difficult thing about the apps
is it's hard to get the depth,
right?
Like, the process of finding
a partner is so hard.
So, my parents,
back home in Malaysia,
they were the ones
who talked about, like,
"Oh, go talk to a matchmaker.
I think that would be fun."
Hi, Mom.
-[Azuana] How are you?
-I'm good.
I'm about to meet
the matchmaker.
-You haven't met her?
-[Imran] No, I haven't.
So, I kind of want to ask you,
do you have any advice for me?
Remember I told you about,
my, uh my PhD project?
The pharmaceutical economic one?
[laughs]
[Imran] Yeah. Yeah. [chuckles]
Yeah, but it doesn't sound
as sexy, right?
"How did you choose
your partner?
Multi-Decision Criteria
Analysis."
[both laugh]
We have too much data today.
I want to see my partner,
who they are. So
So, I'm really excited about
the depth that I think will form, um,
in this process.
[Azuana]
Oh, my God.
I see where you're coming from.
I appreciate the thought.
Yeah, so
[Imran]
[upbeat pop music playing]
-I love sitting here in the morning.
-It's so beautiful.
-[Imran] Yeah.
-No, the view's incredible.
[Imran] So, your first time
in San Francisco?
It is my first time.
I'm excited to start
this process
-with you.
-Okay. [chuckles]
Do you feel like kind of
you being
away from your family
and kind of having to
build your own community
and figure a lot out for yourself
has pushed you or encouraged you
to look for a spouse?
Uh, yes.
You have all these experiences,
but there's no one to share it with.
Is it important for you to have
a Muslim spouse, or do you not mind?
No, I think it's important,
I think, the way I conduct myself
Mm-hmm. That'd be nice,
just understanding,
-not having to explain things.
-Yeah. Yeah.
Like, I don't know. I don't care
if you like pineapples on your pizza
or you don't like pineapples
on the pizza.
That doesn't make
any difference to me.
But I want to see someone
with Islamic qualities,
and I think that's the essence
that I'm looking for in a partner.
Okay, kind of switching gears.
What would you say
are the top things
-you're looking for in a partner?
-Mm.
Specifically, do you have
preferences
of if they wear
or don't wear hijab?
Uh, I don't have a strong
preference.
-Okay, like open in either direction?
-Yeah, I'm open to
-Okay, that's good.
-Um
Curiosity is very important
to me.
A curious mind, um,
across cultures.
I think with that,
-something like empathy.
-Mm-hmm.
What would you say is your,
like, halal-haram ratio?
Like, what are you looking for
as far as religiously
and kind of keeping
everything else in mind?
[chuckles]
-I know it's a tough question.
-That's a hard question.
Like, how do you
how do you enumerate, like, ratio?
-Not, like, a literal ratio. [laughs]
-Okay. [laughs] I'm like
-Um
-You're the tech guy.
Yeah, I know. The math
is kicking in a little bit.
Snoring is haram, yes.
-[laughs] I'm joking.
-[interviewer chuckles]
Calendar invites is very halal.
Uh [laughs]
I love calendar invites.
[laughs]
It should be my sixth love language,
or first. But anyway
I don't drink alcohol.
I prefer my partner not to drink alcohol.
I don't mind alcohol in,
like, corporate events or
I mean, I don't have alcohol at home,
and I'm gonna leave it that way.
Other things as well.
When you want to have
a family and things like that.
Oh, okay. Tell me more about that.
What's your timeline like?
I don't think I'm ready
for a family immediately.
[Hoda] Okay.
Fully respecting the fact that,
like, women have
a biological clock, right?
I'm not the one
carrying the baby.
Okay, amazing.
Well, I have a couple
of things of good news
to tell you about your match.
-She is Malaysian.
-Oh, wow. Okay.
So I want to say
she was born there
-as well.
-Okay.
Um, and she's lived
a really similar life to you
as far as being an expat
and living in various different places.
-So, I think you guys
-Very cool.
are going to have
a lot of common ground.
Anything else, um
I can't tell you. You'll have to ask her.
Have this conversation with her.
Okay.
[upbeat pop music playing]
I only got eyes for you ♪
-Assalamu alaikum, Uneeb.
-Hey, walaikum assalam. How are you?
You know,
we introduced you to Farah.
-I'm Uneeb.
-Farah, nice to meet you.
Hi, nice to meet you.
I got you some chocolates.
Oh, thank you.
And I really want to hear
about how that went.
I had so much fun.
Uh, we went bowling.
We both suck at bowling.
We're terrible.
Uh, but we had a lot of fun.
We enjoyed ourselves.
We were laughing.
We were goofing around.
-Look at this.
-[chuckles]
-Oh, no. it's really stuck.
-Oh, no. It's really stuck.
-[grunts]
-Do you hear that?
I know that you connected
with Uneeb.
Just fill me in
on how that went.
It was a pretty nice date
overall,
um, and I really enjoyed it.
And the conversation that we had
was really interactive,
engaging.
She's very pretty.
She has gorgeous eyes,
these, like, curly hair.
Like, I was really digging her.
I was really into her.
And then,
we went on a second date.
A friend of mine was like,
"Hey, there is a poetry slam
happening."
And it was really cool.
It was in solidarity
for Palestine,
and it was put on
by a Muslim writers collective.
It was a little heavy. It wasn't
like bowling where it was like fun
and, you know, you're energetic,
and you're exciting.
He actually went up
and presented his own poem
during an open mic,
which was really touching
and nice.
The last thing you ever want
to be is a hypocrite.
But how can you not
with everything
we're dealing with?
Half the world is telling you
to never give up, never settle,
and reach your full potential
in this universe,
while the other half
is telling you to be happy
with what you have, be grateful.
It can always be worse.
I was happy she would get
to see a different side of me,
one that's a little bit
more emotional,
a little bit more vulnerable.
But it got a little awkward
after that.
He had a, uh, acquaintance
that was at the event as well.
I invited her to join us.
And then, another friend
actually happened to be there,
and then he joined us.
It just didn't feel like
he was very engaged
in trying to get to know me.
I didn't ask her any questions
in front of people
she doesn't know
because I thought
it would be intrusive.
Did you give her
any indication of,
"I had a really good time,"
or anything like that?
I definitely did a text after,
and I thought I was going
to get a text back.
-That way we can continue
-What did you say after in text?
I said that I hope
you got home safe.
Usually, like, after you meet somebody,
you know, you part ways.
You say something like, "Hey,
We had a nice time."
Yeah, we just met.
So, to me to say like,
"Oh, I really love you.
And I'm like really into this."
Nobody said nothing about love.
[chuckles]
-Okay.
-I said, "I enjoyed meeting you."
I didn't know anything at all
about how he felt.
I felt so engaged and connected
at the beginning,
and then by the end
of the night, it just wasn't the same.
To me, this is just, like,
classic, like, miscommunication.
This is actually the point
of having a matchmaker
because these little things
happen so often,
and if you don't have somebody
kind of guiding you, telling you,
"Hey, you know what?
This actually happens all the time."
You'd probably both be
quick to just be like, "Eh, not for me."
She had no idea
what you were thinking,
and I think if you explain it to her,
not over text, this is something
It's easy to get past.
Um, and then,
I would recommend doing it soon,
like strike while the iron
is hot kind of thing.
Yeah. Fair. Fair.
I will do that. [chuckles]
[upbeat pop music playing]
I'm feeling good.
Um, a little bit nervous.
Um, but I think I think
I think I'm I'm excited. I'm ready.
-Hi! [laughs]
-Hi! [laughs]
-Can I give you a hug?
-Oh, my God. Yes! [laughs]
I am so excited to match
Imran and Nurin.
Nurin is just so wonderful.
She's so jovial and adventurous.
How was your flight?
It was good. It was good.
It was a late flight, but it was good.
-You got in yesterday?
-There was no turbulence.
Yeah, I got home at 11:00 p.m.
-Are you scared of flying?
-No. I love planes.
She's Malaysian
and has lived in various
different places
before settling down in Houston.
[chuckles]
[laughs]
And Imran is really sweet.
He's really social. He's really bubbly.
But I think he's maybe
a little bit anxious.
I think he needs
to control things.
If they can manage to just,
like, come to the middle,
it'll be fantastic.
How are you feeling?
[both laugh]
I don't know how to feel.
How are you feeling?
-Okay. I'm excited.
-Okay, that's good. That's good.
-Thank you.
-Oh, thank you.
Oh!
-Wow, thank you.
-Okay.
-Are you okay with double dipping?
-Yes.
-I don't mind.
-I need double dipping consent.
[chuckles]
I appreciate you asking.
This is fun. I realize I don't know
anything about you, um
-I have three siblings, three sisters.
-Okay.
What about you?
[chuckles] This is a fun game.
Uh, why don't you try to guess?
Um, I feel like
you don't have sisters.
[both laugh]
-Oh, yeah? Why'd you say that?
-Is that right?
-I don't have a sister.
-Ah [chuckles softly]
-I don't know.
-It's a vibe?
I don't know. It literally was just
a lucky guess.
You're, you know, sitting down.
You're trying to look at your date.
You're like, "Whoa, who is she?"
You're All these questions
are racing through your head,
and you're figuring it out.
But after a while,
the thoughts fade away,
and it was just two people
meeting one another.
And it was beautiful.
Um, do you like to do anything,
like, outdoors? [chuckles]
-"Am I interesting?" [chuckles]
-Yeah, let me see.
Um, let's see. Um
I have my pilot's license.
-You fly planes?
-I do.
-Like, for fun? [chuckles]
-Yeah.
You need generally
-40, 50 hours to get your license.
-Okay.
So, um, it took me
about a year and a half.
-Congrats. You're a pilot.
-Thank you.
That's so cool.
I just I love sharing some
of the aviation with people.
-Mm-hmm.
-Um, so, like, if if you're not afraid,
I'd love to sort of, like,
-bring you, uh, flying.
-Yes.
-I, like, answered yes
-[Imran laughs]
'Kay. I was like,
"Yes, take me."
-Okay.
-Yeah, no, I love planes
-Yeah.
-because it just leads to experiences.
The whole, entire time
I was like, "How are they so spot on?"
Like, Yasmin and Hoda Like,
everything that I said that I wanted,
we, like, casually said it
during our conversations.
So, I was like,
"Oh, wow, like,
I'm, like,
excited to see where this goes."
I really enjoyed myself.
I know. Yeah, it was really nice
talking to you.
Um, can I get your number?
Yeah, you can. [chuckles]
[Imran] Getting to know someone
through a matchmaker
is different
because when you get to know
someone on an app or in person,
there was something
that attracted you to that person.
There was some of that magic.
So, I think there's
a little bit more data
and knowing you're in,
that I want to do
that I'm excited about.
You wouldn't be offended if I
sent you a calendar invite?
-No, no, no. That's great. I love that.
-[Imran laughs] Okay.
[upbeat pop music playing]
-Hey, Rehan, how are you?
-I'm doing well. You look nice.
Oh. [chuckles] Thank you.
Should we dive in
to our homework for the week?
Yasmin did explain
the rule of threes to me
when we had our intake.
So, you have to meet
three times,
and there are going to be
weekly homework assignments
[chuckles]
where we have to get together
once a week and, um,
go through a list of questions
before deciding whether or not
you want to proceed with someone.
-Education and career.
-[Bucky] Mm-hmm.
-Juicy topics to dive into. [laughs]
-Great.
Most important job interview
of your life?
Rules of three is helpful.
I think it gives
some sort of structure.
It actually forces you to make time,
you know,
maybe talk about some things
that potentially, you would talk about
otherwise, maybe you wouldn't.
Today, we're gonna be talking
about children.
What a what a natural conversation
to be having, um
[Nurin chuckles]
Some of these questions
are quite intimate.
And we're like, "Whoa,
these are deep questions."
I don't know if I'd ever
ask this, like, you know,
two weeks into knowing you
type of thing.
But we're gonna answer
the questions.
We You know, we're both invested
in the process.
Do you want children
and how many?
As an economist, the economics
of scale work out
when you have
more than one children child.
Much more than one for sure.
Uh, but I think my max
will be four.
So, it's interesting
that you said max is four.
Why do you say max is four?
A minivan has seven seats,
right?
So, when there's four kids and two adults,
that's six people already.
And that gives enough room
for like, you know, luggage.
So, like, if I have any more,
I have to get a bigger car.
And I just think that, like,
it's just too much.
Do you envision yourself,
I guess, working
for the foreseeable future,
full-time, part-time?
Definitely be full-time, um,
before I have kids
just 'cause
I really like what I do.
And then, I think after I have kids,
maybe I would scale back.
Rehan's really actively
listening to what I have to say.
He asks good follow-up questions
in a way that he seems like
he genuinely is interested
in learning more about me.
What about you?
You're going to be full-time?
I don't look at work, like,
full-time and part-time necessarily.
I think I'm getting better
at having a balance there.
I think relationships are really hard
to start off as long-distance
because it's just hard
to get to know each other.
-Okay.
-But I'm definitely feeling excited,
feeling hopeful.
It's nice to be able
to get to know him.
I don't have statistics, but I wonder
if there's, like, a big, um
modality around those numbers,
right?
Because, like, six,
if you take, like, an UberXL,
you could fit, like, seven people
plus the driver, so that would work.
I grew up in a family of six,
and every time we did
a road trip,
I was like, if there's
one more child in the back,
this would be so cramped.
[both chuckle]
The types of conversations
that keep us engaged
have overlapped some places.
When the places that aren't
necessarily overlap,
I'm wondering how important
those places are.
What a fruitful discussion.
-Um, fruitful indeed.
-[chuckles] Fruitful.
A natural conversation
about children
that you would
genuinely, you know, have.
[chuckles]
[upbeat pop music playing
Devin Hoffman "My Mind Is Floating Away"]
My mind just floats away ♪
My mind is floating ♪
-[man] All right? Ready?
-[Imran] Okay. Yeah.
-Can you strain this?
-Yeah.
-And then put it in a bowl.
-Okay.
You're doing good with the vegetables.
Okay, keep going.
Slicing them just like that.
Little, small pieces.
[Mady] I think chicken's done.
-Okay, good.
-We can strain?
Yeah, let's strain.
Some cutting boards.
Um, I've got some carrots
for you, Andrew.
My friends are
an unlikely bunch.
-Are you good?
-Mm-hmm.
-Are you good?
-I'm okay.
They're beautiful people.
They're contemplative people.
But they also tell me
like it is.
And I love those friends.
I want your opinion about Nurin.
You guys like, um,
you know,
know a lot more about me.
So, I really need some help
processing and talking about all of it.
So, a lot of myself feels
at home with her.
Um And it's funny, right?
Like, she's Malaysian,
sense of connection
But There's also that
that miss like that little
What do you think is missing?
-Nerdiness, right?
-Yeah.
-You're really nerdy.
-[Adrian] You are nerdy.
You are so nerd.
-Well, it takes one to know one, okay?
-Big, big nerd.
Okay, okay.
All right, all right.
But along with being a nerd,
you also really like control.
Like, you're really used to
being in the driver's seat
of most big decisions
in your life.
So, it really surprised me
that you would leave a decision
like your life partner
to a matchmaker.
[Imran] Oh!
[Adrian] What made you
even decide to do this?
Man, it's hard to get
to know someone online.
So, I don't know.
I thought in-person time,
magic, powerful, you know.
But I still sense that
even after
such a positive experience,
you are carrying
a lot of uncertainty.
-Hmm.
-[Adrian] Yeah. How do you feel?
[chuckles] If I'd known,
I wouldn't be here today.
We're still figuring it out,
right?
It would be an email,
not an in-person gathering.
Wait, you're saying
you didn't just want to make us dinner?
No, no, I did. But
Wait, I came for the free food.
What are you talking about? What?
[Imran laughs] Love you, too.
[Andrew laughs]
I think Nurin brings out
a very warm side of me
that I enjoy,
but there's a side of me
that I know exists
that I don't think comes out
when I'm necessarily
around her all the time.
It's definitely been something
that's been on my mind.
Do you guys have any opinions,
you know, firsthand?
I think you owe it to yourself
to be honest with you, right?
-Yeah.
-Like, feelings
are approximations of truth.
[chuckles]
And when you feel something,
it is truth in some form.
Yeah.
Imran mentioned that
with his friends,
he has these,
like, really deep conversations.
And I think he's looking
for the same thing from Nurin.
And I feel, like, because he's searching
to find out if it's there or not there,
he's missing what is
right in front of him.
[upbeat pop music playing]
-Assalamu alaikum.
-Walaikum assalam. Hi, how are you?
Oh, my God,
it's so nice to meet you, Imran.
I'm excited to talk to you
and just, you know, uh
I love how
you gave me your tell.
You said deep things,
and then you said good things.
Well, it showcases
what I value, right? [chuckles]
Exactly.
That's my Freudian slip.
[laughs]
So, tell me.
Tell me a little bit, Imran.
What's going on with Nurin?
I felt like there was
a lot of conversation
but I think
I was yearning for more of a,
um, deeper connection.
Because I hear
Our conversations are, like,
this happened, this happened,
this happened,
and the physical manifestations
of those.
But I want to dig
a layer deeper, right?
Anybody who is
too much in their head
and not enough in their heart
wants to problem solve
or analyze their way into love.
It doesn't work that way.
I'm a little concerned
that Imran and Nurin haven't really been
in any long-term relationship,
so they're very relationship young.
You can either grow together
or grow apart in that situation.
One of the things that builds a lot
of trust with women is straight up
listening to them
and mirroring what you heard.
When you mirror what a woman
has said to you and said,
"Hey, you told me this
last week. How's that going?"
That's the kind of conversation
that really needs to happen
on a weekly basis.
You really have to feed
a relationship.
It's really nice to see Imran
realizing hey,
maybe he's not actually
mirroring the right way
and being over-analytical
about something that he has to feel.
I've given him as many tools
as I can
to understand
that he has to have stillness.
It just expands your ability
to connect with people.
Like, I can't do, do, do.
Sometimes I just have
to stop and feel.
Nurin's entire demeanor
-She is a generous person.
-Mm.
You know, she needs to know
that you're going to be
generous with her, too.
I'm taking notes.
Yeah, like, you're taking notes.
I love this. Great. Why not?
[upbeat pop music playing]
How's it feel ♪
To be alone ♪
Hey, assalamu alaikum.
Hey. Salaam khai. How'd it go?
Um, I wish I was
it was, uh, the date Hmm
-Try me.
-Okay. Mm-hmm.
Part of me just felt like
he wasn't really there for
to be there for me,
if that makes sense,
like, to get to know me.
So, yeah. I was, like, okay,
I'm going to take that as,
like, something, as a sign.
Am I a medium one?
I think I'm going
to go for large.
Okay. I'm good.
-Good?
-Good.
Yeah, the chivalry
was not chivalry-ing.
Okay.
So, whatever.
I gave him my phone number.
I messaged him just 'cause
he was flying back home.
And I was like, you know,
"Hope you have a safe flight,"
or whatever.
Like, "How do you feel
like things went?"
And then, a couple hours later, he, like,
ended things with a text.
Oh, no. Flag on the play.
That's not okay.
Yeah.
He said he enjoyed the date.
"I think the divorce caught me
off guard a bit"
And then, in parentheses,
"Although not a deal breaker,"
and that, "Physically
you're not my type."
"Figured it's better to just say
that now than to drag it on."
Why would you ever say that?
Why would he mention
your divorce at all?
This is exactly what we
what we want to try to avoid.
First of all, the rules of three
are there
so that people
could meet three times.
But also, we have to be careful
and mindful of the way
that we speak to each other.
-Yeah.
-It's such a big part of this.
So, I'm really disheartened
by this
but happy
that it happened at the outset.
My whole thing is like,
if you need to fail, fail fast.
We are focused on trying
to find someone who has aligning values,
is what I would call it.
Absolutely frustrating,
but glad you didn't put
more time and effort
into somebody that's clearly
not worth it.
Yeah, you have to.
After the date,
I prayed Istikhara prayer,
which is like a prayer
for guidance. And
like, it makes you question,
like, am I ready for this,
the rejections that can happen?
And it it hurts.
I'm really disappointed.
I'm so sorry, Yasmine,
and I know you're
putting yourself out there.
This is your first kind of foray
back into the dating world
after the divorce.
I will say, though,
that sometimes God
will shut a door in your face,
and he'll slam it shut,
and it'll feel harsh.
But it is the deepest kind
of protection.
Um, I mean, the first pancake
is always gonna be burnt.
-It's gonna be a bad pancake.
-[laughs]
[Yasmin]
This is the bad pancake.
All I can say is, alhamdulillah,
it was a good experience.
And it really solidified
what I'm looking for
and what I'm not looking for.
So, some good
still came from it.
Inshallah, the next experience
will be much, much, much, much better.
And I hope that this doesn't
deter you or put you off from
wanting to put yourself
out there.
Praying on it.
I'm going to pray Istikhara on it.
Um, and I'll let you guys
do your thing.
Matchmakers go matching.
That's good. That's good.
[upbeat pop music playing]
Hey, I'm the sunshine shining
on you ♪
I'm a feel-good feeling
like ooh ♪
Turn the good times up ♪
Show us the warrior pose.
[chuckles]
Am I good? Here, am I good?
-Look look straight, man.
-[Bucky's friend 1] Okay!
Five seconds, and then move.
And then we're done.
Okay. Three, two, one, switch.
-All right, guys.
-[Bucky's friend 2] I think we're good.
My friends, they're all very intelligent,
successful, fun.
They're actually all single.
It just goes to show that there are
so many great single women out there,
and I think it's just that girls have
a harder time dating than guys do
because I think girls are
just looking for more things
than guys are necessarily.
Hey, how's it going with Rehan?
Um, I think pretty okay.
Um, we've only been
on the one date.
I'm just used to maybe,
like, things progressing
a little more steadily.
-Mm-hmm.
-And I think because
he's in Chicago, it's just hard.
Like, I'm not seeing him.
You know, it's not like
we're going out to dinner
every Friday or something.
-Have you been to Chicago?
-I haven't.
-[Rehan] You haven't been to Chicago?
-I haven't.
-Maybe we can change that. [chuckles]
-Maybe. Maybe.
Have you guys had
the exclusivity talk or anything?
I mean, there's, like,
this whole kind of specific way
we're supposed to be dating
where we do something called
the rule of threes.
So, first, we're supposed
-to go on three dates.
-Okay.
[Bucky] And then, after the three dates
is when we're supposed to decide,
like, yes or no. Do I want to keep talking
to this person or not?
So, it can't just be, like,
one date,
and you're like,
"I'm out."
She says give people a chance.
Do you know if he's talking
to other girls
while you're
in this process with him?
I don't know.
But I also, like,
don't want to know.
You know what I mean?
-Yeah, I get that.
-Like
Would you wanna know
if we saw him on an app?
[tense music playing]
Did you guys see him?
So, I saw him on one of the apps
a couple weeks ago.
Um, obviously,
I didn't swipe right.
Um, I had just recognized him
from the photos.
I saw him, too. Um
How do you feel about that?
[upbeat pop music playing]
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