My Unorthodox Life (2021) s02e04 Episode Script

The Trouble with Aron

1
[pop music playing]
[line calling]
This is Ramon.
Yes, I see that someone came
to my apartment in the middle of the night
without my knowledge or permission
and removed items.
In the middle of the night?
Yeah, I've been home this entire time.
They came when I was sleeping
and took it out.
[Ramon] My goodness.
Yeah, but you guys have concierges.
There's always someone downstairs.
How did they get past you
without you knowing?
Someone came into the house
and took two paintings
off the wall while we were sleeping.
Find out who it was,
who was there in the evening shift.
Let's look at the cameras because
this is going to become a police matter.
I have children here. It's not a joke.
It's just so
awful. It's just awful.
What happened?
They came in the middle of the night,
while I was asleep.
-He took the pointy painting.
-That's really, really fucking creepy.
In the night of the tiger ♪
Don't let me catch ya ♪
[Shlomo] Lunch?
Let's do it.
-Looks amazing. Thank you, Chris.
-Hello?
Okay.
[Chris] Hummus.
Yeah. They don't have the video yet.
It takes them two days to get a subpoena.
The head of one of the major crimes
detectives is coming.
Since someone took the art,
I'm literally scared to sleep at night,
knowing Silvio still had a key fob,
and that legally he owns the art,
and that he could come in,
makes me think it must be him.
'Cause how did they get up the stairs? So
Yeah, I just, I can't believe it.
It's so crazy.
[Robert] Julia!
-Hi.
-[Batsheva] Hello.
-Looking snazzy.
-Sexy.
-Wow.
-[Robert] Thanks.
[Batsheva] Damn! Wearing, like,
a low V-neck with a necklace.
Look at you, sexy.
-[Batsheva] Like you're from the Hamptons.
-I thought Miami.
-[Batsheva] Miami. Fine, Miami.
-[Julia] Yeah. You look so hot.
-Thank you.
-[Batsheva] I feel embarrassed right now.
-Me too. I'm in basic pajamas.
-[Batsheva] I should've been more dressed.
-You look
-[Julia] I haven't been out in days.
-[Robert] That's ridiculous.
-[Julia] Have not left this fucking house.
You need to get out of the house.
You can't keep staring at these walls.
I know I need a break. I need to get out
of this city, to get out of my apartment.
Ra'ed and I are gonna go to Connecticut.
The thought was, is there any possible way
you might want to have a break?
-And go to Connecticut?
-[Robert] Come to my new house.
[Shlomo] Let's go!
-No.
-I'm proud of it. I wanna show it to you.
I don't wanna leave the house. What if
I leave and come back, and it's all empty?
Well, you could call
You would call the police.
[Julia] You know
what I'm really afraid of is
that Silvio is going to come
into this house.
Frankly, I don't want him back here.
I'm just literally scared
to walk out the door.
We'll surround you
like the Secret Service.
That's number one. Number two,
I'm afraid he'll come if I'm not here.
Hire a security guard.
Ooh, that's a good idea.
Hire a security guard.
I think every person here
can use a timeout.
I am desperately hoping that Julia comes
and sees the trees and the sun
and reads a book and is able to get
her mind off everything that's happening.
I'm getting worried about her. I'm hoping
we can start looking towards the future.
You have room for us?
-Yeah.
-How many bedrooms do you have?
Four bedrooms.
-Ra'ed and I will be in a bedroom.
-I'll be in a bedroom.
Batsheva can have her own room.
-No.
-[Shlomo] The girls should share.
Girls can share and boys can share.
'Cause I want Aron to come.
-I like that.
-[Robert] It's a neat setting.
[Julia] Aron is my baby.
We share custody, my ex-husband and I.
He spends half the week here,
half the week in Monsey,
which is really hard for me.
If it was up to me, Aron would live
with me every day of the week.
I really miss him when he's not here.
But he didn't wanna come
the last few weeks until Silvio moved out,
because he just felt
so unwanted and uncomfortable.
So I think it could be
really nice to just get out of the house
and be able to all be together
in this, like, happy family.
[Julia] You're right. Let's relax.
-Relax.
-Let me read and meditate.
Honestly, there's a perfect chair
in a window that you can sit and read.
This'll be really nice to have
some nature and grass.
-[Robert] Maybe a hot tub moment.
-[Shlomo] You have a hot tub?
-Pack a bathing suit.
-[Shlomo] Let's do it.
[pop music playing]
[Ra'ed] Good morning.
Good morning.
-How are you? Did you sleep well?
-Well, you're an idiot.
I think, um, we need to focus
on making sure Julia's day is nice.
-I agree with that.
-That she's calm and happy and serene.
You haven't told me how you feel about
everything that's happening right now.
I know that Julia is very stressed.
And where are you in all of this?
I guess I feel, like, naturally nervous.
I feel like it makes sense for me to be
kind of anxious about the whole thing.
But then another part of me is, like,
"Okay."
"It's time for a fresh adventure."
I was thinking, like,
is there a world where
maybe I meet a casting agent or someone
and see if there's any way
I could do something on Broadway.
Yes, I would die,
die, die, die if you're on Broadway.
I would be dead.
Please, please sing, please.
Robert's talent, not a lot of people know
about it, he's an opera singer.
He sounds better than everybody
I see on television, on stage.
You sound the best!
I mean he just exudes,
just dramatic excellence.
If he gets on a Broadway show
Front row with bouquets.
It's just for myself,
like, can I achieve this little dream
that I never took any steps towards?
Can I, like, take a first step
and then scratch that itch?
[sucks teeth]
[upbeat music playing]
[Julia] Knock, knock.
-[Robert] Oh my gosh!
-[Julia] Look who's here!
[Ra'ed] Richard, calm down.
Hi, Richard. Hi, Richard.
-Hello, my love. Welcome.
-Hello!
Hey, handsome man. Look at you.
-Welcome to Connecticut.
-It's so pretty here.
I brought a lot of food,
some snacks, kosher food.
[Ra'ed] We weren't done
getting everything ready.
-Does it look good?
-[Julia] I love it. It's beautiful.
-[Ra'ed] This is the queen's quarters.
-[Julia] Oh my!
-[Ra'ed] Let's do the grand reveal.
-[Julia] What?
[Ra'ed] Ta-da!
-[Julia] Guys, it's your own bedroom.
-No.
That's how we do it in my culture.
We give our best to the guests
-And you are family.
-It's so beautiful. Look at this stream.
-It's still running.
-[Robert] I know.
I am so tremendously grateful
to Robert and Ra'ed for inviting us.
I desperately needed a getaway.
I've been sitting in the house
without moving, getting dressed,
functioning,
living any kind of normal life.
I think it's really important to remind
myself that there is a world out there.
-Hi!
-[Batsheva] Hello!
[Ra'ed] Welcome!
[Batsheva] I love how your mat
has an R on it.
[Robert] Obviously for Robert,
Ra'ed, and Richard.
-Hello, beautiful. I love this coat.
-Ahh-ho!
[Miriam] Oh, yeah! Let's chop some wood.
My hands are too delicate.
I don't wanna break a nail.
All right, let's chop wood.
I'm ready to chop wood.
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
if a woodchuck could chuck wood?
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
If a woodchuck could chuck wood? What?
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
If a woodchuck could chuck wood?
-[beatboxing]
-I don't know.
[Ra'ed] Okay.
[Robert] Who wants to take
the first swing?
-Yes!
-[all cheering]
What do you do after?
[Ra'ed] You guys don't know anything
about chopping wood.
-Richard!
-Richard! Watch out!
-Oh my God!
-Yeah!
[grunts]
Oh my God.
[Miriam] Yeah!
-[grunts]
-[laughs]
[laughter]
It's really snowing.
[Ra'ed] You guys,
I'm gonna get frostbitten.
[Robert] Shoes off!
[Batsheva] Are we still gonna go to pizza?
[Julia] Yeah.
[pop music playing]
You look like
you're trying to be a pop star.
[Nathalie laughs]
That's exactly what I'm trying to go for.
People ask me, "Why are you so handsome?"
I'm like, "I flat iron my hair."
-[Robert] No one says that.
-[laughs]
I have a question though.
When are the hot, handsome guys coming?
-[Ra'ed] That's gonna be Sunday night.
-Oh, God!
-I'm so excited.
-I'm terrified.
[Miriam] Why are you terrified?
Because it's random people
coming to my home.
So we're not being here
when that happens, I assume.
-Would you like to join our foursome?
-No, thank you. I'm just curious.
-We're throwing a party in Connecticut.
-Okay.
-You're invited.
-I would love to. I'll bring my boyfriend.
You know, girl, my peacock feathers
are gonna be out.
Right now, I'm in family mode.
This is family mode.
But peacock feathers out,
rides full force, ready.
That's gonna be Sunday night.
I'll save that for Sunday.
Oh my God, I'll kill myself.
Have you ever hung out with people
that you are wildly sexually attracted to?
And your body says, "Touch."
Your mind says, "Look."
Your heart says, "Yes."
You just have to ignore those feelings?
Has anyone been through those?
I don't think I'm as, like, interested
in other people as you are.
You're not the person to ask.
You're in love and happy.
Miriam fulfills every checks every box,
and you're fully fulfilled.
So you're not fully fulfilled
by Robert, okay.
-Red flag, honey!
-[Batsheva] I'm waving it.
[Robert] He's not capable
of a closed relationship.
Is that what you want?
Question is, am I okay with it?
I don't know yet.
What do you think, Batsheva?
Weigh in please.
You just can't have it both ways.
Ha, ha!
[Ra'ed] Batsheva, if you were dating me,
how would you move forward
knowing I'm not capable of closing
a relationship, and you'd like it closed?
I think I would have
to end things with you.
That's it? Just, like, absolute?
No, it's not absolute.
That's who you are. This is who I am.
We want different things.
You find somebody else.
And do you suggest that for Robert and I?
I don't know, maybe.
You suggest we end our relationship?
You have such fundamental differences
towards, like, sleeping with people.
I think that's tough.
That's part of your personality.
So why would you have to like,
specifically change that?
-It's who you are. It's not negative.
-Yes, that's definitely
A slut, that's who I am.
I'm not saying it can't be done.
I'm saying it's fucking hard, I'm sure.
Yeah.
-[Julia] Hello!
-Hello!
-Hello, you came in at the perfect time.
-Mother, are you ready for pizza?
-Yes, I'm very r Oh!
-[laughter]
-Richard! That's a no-no.
-[Ra'ed] You can sit on Ra'ed's lap,
-Okay.
-Batsheva just suggested we break up.
-What?
-Can you believe that?
Batsheva, get out of this room
immediately! Are you crazy?
No, don't ever break up
with this gorgeousness, please.
[pop music playing]
[Robert] Are you guys starting
to feel a little relaxed?
[Julia] Yes.
-To family!
-To family! Love!
-[Ra'ed] Money!
-Good times!
To business.
To going up when other people go down.
I heard you were going on dates
and fully messing around with people?
-Like, having sex?
-Yeah.
Yeah. For a while now.
I can't help
but eavesdrop on this conversation.
-My sex life?
-Wait, I wanna hear.
-It goes into
-My mom knows all this.
Oh, that you squirt?
God! No! Closing down this conversation.
By the way, all three of us do.
-[Robert] Oh my God! Yes!
-[screams] Bring the pizza! No.
[Julia] It's a family thing.
I was so shocked
the first time I squirted.
Miriam's like, "I squirted!"
Batsheva's like, "I squirted!"
-I'm like, "Oh my God, it's a family"
-Oh my gosh!
I'm not okay with this!
-It's the super-soaker Brady Bunch.
-Ew!
It's the Bellagio fountain.
[Batsheva] Shut the fuck up everybody.
I'm not telling you anything anymore.
-Wow, it looks beautiful.
-Thank you.
-[Ra'ed] Wow! So hungry!
-[Batsheva] Damn.
Oh my God, look at my plate.
It's probably more than
I've eaten in five days.
[Ra'ed] By the way, I scouted
the whole restaurant. There's not one gay.
The nearest gay club
is, like, 30 minutes away.
-A gay club? I wanna go.
-[Ra'ed] Yeah, can we go?
There are drag queens.
-Let's go!
-I wanna go, I wanna go!
-How far is it? Troop?
-It's 30 minutes. I know.
[laughing]
"I've been there while you're sleeping."
Seriously. Probably.
Would you like to respond
to that accusation?
Obviously, I don't wanna get into,
like, sensitive issues.
-Personal issues.
-I don't feel any sensitivity.
Ah ha ho! Boom!
I wanna be her.
-Yeah.
-Teach me how to be her.
That's amazing.
I don't know how to be like her.
-I don't either.
-She's great at dismissing.
She's great at walking away
when she doesn't wanna hear something
and doesn't care
if the other person cares or not.
Wow! Am I in trouble?
Obviously, I thought it was
very insensitive for you to tell me
to break up with my boyfriend
'cause that's obviously
I didn't tell you to break up! I said
that it could work, but it'll be harder.
It's a sensitive topic when we're playful
and being playful, I get it. It's fun.
But it's just insensitive for me.
My mission is to really secure
the love of my life
and understand and have a common ground.
I don't know, just to be on our side
the way your mom and Miriam, Shlomo.
They're all encouraging and helping solve
a problem and I felt you were absolute.
I'm always gonna be very level-headed.
And I didn't know that you weren't both
on the same page about your sex
like, sexuality.
I just, like, I'm not into it.
[dramatic sting]
[chuckles] Jesus.
[Robert] Batsheva is not
giving Ra'ed an inch.
Here he is extending
the olive branch of friendship,
and she has swatted it away
like he's a fly on her shoulder.
Ugh!
-Of course.
-Yeah. Okay, moving on.
You know, for the next topic.
Nathalie, how's tennis?
[laughter]
[pop music playing]
Why is Aron coming so late?
-[Julia] Shabbos.
-Yeah, but Shabbos ended.
Yeah, but he's in Upstate New Jersey
'cause it's Elise's cousin's nephew's
brother's bar mitzvah or something.
aufruf. He's at some simcha.
-[Batsheva] I see.
[Ra'ed] Oh my God,
Batsheva is annoying me a bit.
Um, well, this is the point though.
[Ra'ed] What?
She seems not turnt up about it
but you do.
-So
-That's why it's hard. I can't have a
-You can't let go
-I've been trying to control myself.
[Batsheva] Who brought
butter snap pretzels? My mom?
[Robert] Mm. Not sure.
[tense music playing]
-I love you, have fun. Bye.
-Love you guys. Bye.
Unfortunately. Nathalie has
to leave the trip early because
she has a tennis match
that she doesn't wanna miss.
[Julia] Robert!
-[Miriam] Rob?
-[Robert] Yeah?
-[Miriam] My mom's calling you.
-Rob, I need you, babe.
My lawyer is asking for
the proof that, uh, Jefferies valued us
between up to past 600 million.
That's in the very beginning
when they started with us. When was that?
[Miriam] You hot, buddy?
What are you looking for?
Look it up. Miriam, I need my
-Computer, iPad?
-The one that has Elite.
I think, as much as my mom
wants to be able to relax,
she is just unable to do that right now.
Hopefully, she'll be able to enjoy it
once Aron gets here.
They have this very strong bond because
they have a very similar personality.
So I think having all of us together
will really make her happy.
[Miriam] Okay, I'm gonna go to sleep.
-[Julia] Love you.
-Love you. I'm feeling super tired.
[Batsheva] Can I come with you?
I'm also tired.
-Good night. Love you, guys.
-[Batsheva] Gonna go sleep with Miriam.
-[Robert] Good night.
-[Batsheva] Love you, guys.
[pop music playing]
-Aron?
-It's Aron.
-[Julia] Aron!
-[Robert] Aron! Yay!
[chuckling]
-Mm!
-[Robert] Richard!
-[Aron] Richard.
-[Robert] Do you see Aron?
You're really in the middle of nowhere.
[chuckles]
[Robert] Richard, come.
-[Aron] Hey, Mother.
-[Julia] Hello, my son.
I missed your face.
Honestly, seeing that
sweet face after everything
that's gone on the last week and a half,
it's such a shot in the arm for me.
Just his presence brings me so much joy.
I'm just happy to be with him.
[Julia] Which room is Aron's?
[Robert] Yeah, we moved him
and Shlomo into this room.
How was Shabbos?
It was nice.
[Julia] You're staying the whole week?
I haven't seen you in 800 years.
[whispers] And Silvio's not there.
You can have Shabbos.
You can have friends over.
[Aron] Now that my mom divorced Silvio,
I'm glad to be with my mom here now.
I haven't seen her in a bit.
I think this is the first time that we're
all together as a family without Silvio.
Wanna do Shabbos this weekend?
Sure, maybe.
Yay! You can invite your friends
and make a really nice Shabbos meal.
.
geshmak.
[upbeat music playing]
-[Batsheva] Aron!
-[Aron] Sissy.
-Hello, when did you get in?
-Okay. Last night. Went to Shabbat.
-You're not even moving to give me a hug.
-I did. I put my hand.
-It's a one-way hug.
-I can't.
Tap. [chuckles] 
Lovely. Thanks a lot. So nice to see you.
[Miriam] Batsheva, you were
a very cute sleeper last night.
-[Batsheva] Was I?
-[Miriam] You tried cuddling with me.
-No way.
-[Miriam] Way!
-No way.
-Yeah.
[laughs]
Like, you tried spooning me.
At first, I moved away. But there
was nowhere to move, so I accepted.
-Was I sweet?
-[Miriam] A little aggressive.
-I wasn't expecting it.
-[Batsheva] A little aggressive? Oh God.
[pop music playing]
No, come on. You can do better than that.
I'll teach you something.
-Chords, okay?
-[Aron] Mm-hmm.
[plays chord]
-Five chord.
-Wow.
-Then this is a major four chord.
-[plays chord]
And then back to
Guess who has food.
[all] Ooh!
We're having barbecue,
which Aron can't eat.
[Julia] Just to be extra cautious.
This will make him happy.
So I brought kosher food,
kosher dishes, kosher pots and pans.
Because none of his ovens are kosher,
Robert was so lovely,
he bought the toaster oven, so we could
heat up food for Aron in there as well.
We're basically coming
as if we're staying for three months,
but that's what happens
when you travel with a kosher person.
[Julia] Put the non-kosher food
on this side.
But guys, if you touch anything
with it from here, use different forks
[Ra'ed] Okay.
-for your kosher stuff so you don't
-[Ra'ed] Got it.
[Shlomo] Here's a salad.
[Julia] Don't dekosherfy his food, please.
[indistinct chatter]
Mm!
How was everyone's sleep?
I slept for like six hours
which is not bad for me.
This is baba ghanoush, by the way.
-Is that white fish?
-[Miriam] Yeah.
Yum.
[Julia] I've been up since 6:30.
The lawyers needed
all these things answered.
And it's just back
into the whole writing stuff.
My mom needs some time to relax,
and hang out in Connecticut,
and not have to think
about all the stress in her life.
But she doesn't seem
to be able to stop working 24/7.
It's really concerning.
Okay, well, I set the table
so someone else has to clean it.
[Aron saying a Hebrew prayer]
-[Ra'ed] Take it out?
-[Julia] Yeah.
[continues praying]
[pop music playing]
Richie!
This is a big stick.
[Miriam laughs]
-[Miriam] I'm gonna light this on fire.
-[Robert] Perfect.
But you wanna light
where it says "light here."
Yeah.
[Miriam laughs]
So you like being out here,
or don't like being out here?
It could be worse.
[chuckles]
-[Robert] True, it could be worse.
-[Aron] Could be worse.
What did you think of the discussion
with the whole family?
-The open relationship?
-What does that mean, open relationship?
Where you can It depends,
different people define it differently.
It can mean you can have sex
with other people or date other people.
[Aron] Then you're not really dating
if you're dating other people.
Well, there's more than one way
to be dating one person.
I'm trying to be open-minded about it.
But the more I talk about it,
the more closed-minded I become.
Just because I start thinking
too much about it,
and then I start ascribing
too much emotion to it.
Being in a relationship that's
this committed is very, very new for me.
And I feel like Ra'ed just wants me
to, like, jump into the most
out-of-the-box relationship I can think of
which is this, like, open, no rules,
fully committed,
but not committed situation.
I think he thinks I'm gonna change.
Maybe this surgery is gonna make me
more driven, high sex drive.
-[Aron, chuckling] Bye.
-[Robert] Yeah.
-[Miriam] Okay.
-[Robert] Sorry.
-Bye.
-Bye, love you.
[Robert] Love you, mean it.
[Miriam] I've talked of this with Nathalie
and she would have stress sometimes that
like, if she turns me down,
'cause she's just tired one night
or something like that,
then she feels bad.
Is that a stress you have?
You don't wanna fuck as much as he does,
and you feel bad about it?
Yeah. It's even worse than that
because I say, "No."
He says, "Okay," gets on Grindr,
and finds someone else.
Sometimes it makes me feel,
like, I'm not enough,
or he needs to get something
from someone else.
Which isn't a great feeling.
I think what scares me
about committing to Ra'ed is,
I'm gonna go down this road,
I'm gonna put everything I can
into this relationship,
and then on one of his Grindr dates,
he finds someone he likes better,
and I'm shit out of luck.
Long-term, I'm just not sure if I'm gonna
be okay with something this open.
Well, you know,
we have this double date thing.
-These boys coming here tonight.
-Right.
[Robert] I mean, yeah.
I don't know one of them.
-But the one I met, very attractive.
-Yeah.
But I guess it's more just a worry of,
what is his expectation.
Have you spoken about this with Ra'ed?
I don't think he can change
because it's, like, his biology.
For him, it's
I know it's an emotionless thing.
And, you know, he genuinely believes
-that this is the correct way.
-Right.
And I genuinely believe
I don't think it's right for me.
Right.
I'm just, like
-I'm not sure we're gonna get there.
-[Miriam] Hmm.
[pop music playing]
[Julia] Why are you wearing
your jacket in here? Are you cold?
Hmm.
-Comfortable.
-Comfortable in a jacket?
Mm-hmm.
-You wanna sweatshirt? I've got some.
-That's okay.
frumy thing?
-No?
-No.
-Just a comfortable thing.
-Hmm-mm.
I'm noticing Aron is definitely less,
you know, engaged with the other kids,
his siblings, and with me.
You know, he came in his black hat
and his yeshiva bochur suit
as opposed to what
he would've come in three months ago,
which would've been jeans and a T-shirt.
It's worrying me a lot.
[doorbell rings]
-[laughing]
-[Batsheva] Hello. Sorry. Oh God, Richard!
My mom mentioned multiple times
throughout the past few weeks that
she just wants to meditate,
and these are words
that I've never heard her say ever.
So I thought I'd be a good idea
to bring a sound bath to us.
It's supposed to help calm you,
have tranquility,
and I hope that this helps her relax.
That's all I want to do is help her relax.
Okay. Are you ready?
-[dryly] Yes.
-[chuckling]
[Shlomo] Very convincing.
Well guys, I mean unfortunately percussion
is not gonna help me win a case in court.
[sighs]
-Sheva, this was a great idea.
-Thank you.
[Kelly breathing deeply]
Close your eyes and go inside.
Be with your breath and be in your body.
[mystic music playing]
[Kelly] Breathe.
The rise and fall of your chest.
This is your natural filtration system.
This is about being
right here and right now.
[plays sound cylinders]
[Julia] I just got a frightening text
from my lawyers.
My heart is going like this,
and my hands are shaking, and I'm sweaty.
-[plays ocean drum, interrupts]
-It's really cool. I'm so sorry.
I feel so bad.
I don't mean to interrupt everybody.
I'm really under attack,
and I need to defend myself.
We're doing the sound thing,
and my lawyers send me this message saying
that Silvio's defense is claiming that
in EWG, my ownership is null and void.
He's claiming that I own, like, less than
point one percent of the company.
I stop the whatever that sound thing was,
which was actually really cool,
and I would've enjoyed it
if my mind was not focused on
"Oh my God!
Am I going to lose everything?"
Thank you so much.
Thank you, really.
I would love to do that again when
my, you know,
when my life isn't on the line.
Now I need to find every email
where he says I'm a co-owner.
I need to find every text
where he says I'm a co-owner.
I need to show that he has been telling
people for the last three years,
we have signed documents.
We have emails and texts
where he constantly confirms
that I am co-owner.
So now this relaxing getaway
is officially kaput.
Aron, did you enjoy
our family getaway together?
Yeah.
-[Batsheva] Right? It was so nice.
-Mm-hmm.
[Batsheva] You weren't paying attention
properly during the sound bath though.
-Were you?
-I spied on you a little.
If you were spying,
you weren't paying attention.
I was paying attention. I wasn't scrolling
through my phone like you were.
[Ra'ed] You scrolled through your phone?
-You rude 15-year-old, rebellious kid.
-[Batsheva] I know, right?
Do you scroll during your prayers?
Your Jewish prayers?
Oh, I would never do that.
[Ra'ed] You want me to go down
and carry stuff with you?
[Batsheva] Uh, sure.
[Aron] Just get my bag.
-Bye, Rob.
-[Robert] Bye, guys.
-Bye.
-[Batsheva] Thank you.
[Robert] Thank you again for coming.
-I hope you come back
-[Batsheva] Thank you.
in the summer
with the pool and the tennis court.
[Batsheva] We're definitely coming back.
-[Ra'ed] I'm taking the garbage.
-[Robert] Drive safe home.
-[Batsheva] Thank you.
-[Aron] We'll try.
[upbeat music playing]
Batsheva! Miriam!
[Batsheva] What?
[Julia] Come to the kitchen.
What are we doing
with the Aron situation, guys?
Six months ago, he was keeping Shabbos,
keeping beautiful religious,
all that stuff,
without any
of the extremist things, right?
Aron was, like,
really modern in the summertime.
-He was totally fine.
-[Miriam] He was hanging out with friends.
He was doing his thing,
but he was still modern.
-Modern in his head.
-He'd hug his friends that were girls.
He was supposed to travel with us.
-He doesn't wanna hang out with us.
-He doesn't wanna hang out anymore.
It felt kind of awkward
with Aron in Connecticut.
All my kids are worried about him.
They feel him removing himself from them.
It's scary.
We need to
-Do you know what happened with Nathalie?
-No. He used to love Nathalie.
-You wanna know what happened?
-Oh no.
Nathalie was working in the kitchen,
and then Aron came in, and then
she went to hug him, and he backed away.
She went to fist bump him. That's not
super direct. She thought it'd be okay.
And he took a plastic bag, put it
in between, and then fist bumped her.
-No!
-[Miriam chuckles]
-[Batsheva] Cringe.
-[Shlomo] Yeah.
[Julia] Oh my God.
[Batsheva] I'm definitely
concerned with how
strong-minded he is
in this new stand on religion.
Until this point, I've never seen him
be like that, and it makes me sad.
I think that we're all
trying to do our part
to continue having a relationship with him
even though it is more challenging
that he has these
different viewpoints than us.
He is only 15. I know you're saying
that you're super scared,
but he's got a long time
of growth ahead of him.
-No.
-[Shlomo] I think it's just a phase.
-It is a phase!
-[Miriam] But thing is
But the phase is gonna keep growing
-At that age, I started to be modern.
-Exactly.
There's been a massive change with Aron.
You know, he was becoming
a modern Orthodox Jew.
I realized why I stopped
talking to girls, watching TV
wasn't for the right reasons.
I was doing what my friends said
was right, not what actually is right.
-So now, what does this mean?
-This means I'll speak to girls.
Yay! And television?
-With Mother. I won't watch it by myself.
-With Mother? Excellent.
And he is literally now
ten times more religious
than my ex-husband.
It's really crazy.
I'm at a loss. Like, you know me,
I'm not usually at a loss.
I am at a loss
because I cannot lose my child.
-I don't wanna lose my brother.
-You don't wanna lose your brother.
I don't wanna lose my son.
[upbeat music playing]
[Ra'ed] What are we gonna order? Should we
order something or give them leftovers?
-Is there anything in there we can make?
-We definitely have a charcuterie board.
Really? Oh, we've got the cheeses?
-How many?
-Fried fish balls.
-You'll have jokes for that.
-Great content with fried fish balls.
Great content. Do that.
Tonight is a pivotal moment
in our relationship.
We're meeting these two guys.
Like, tonight determines
if I'm ever gonna
be open to any of the things
he's wanting me to be open to.
[Robert] I think we need a little
liquid courage.
[coughing]
Blah!
[gags]
[knocking on door]
[Steve] Hello?
-Hey! Good to see you.
-Good to see you.
-How are you?
-Good. Nice to see you.
-Thank you for having us.
-Thank you for coming. I'm Rob.
-We haven't met.
-This is Devon.
-Nice to meet you.
-Hello, gentlemen!
-Here he is. Hi, good to see you.
-How are you?
-Good, thanks.
-[Ra'ed] Excellent. How are you doing?
-[Steve] Show us around.
-[Ra'ed] You guys wanna do a little tour?
-[Steve] We would love that.
-Do the tour.
The tour. This is why I was obsessed
with the property. There's a hot tub.
-[Steve] Amazing.
-We have a rule for the hot tub.
-Okay.
-[Ra'ed] Clothing prohibited.
[Steve] Music to my ears.
Two bathrooms, right next to each other.
That one has an amazing bidet,
aims right into your asshole, amazing.
-[Robert] That's why it's the boys.
-That's boys. [laughs]
Everyone can just take a turn
on the bidet.
-How fabulous.
-I love that.
[Steve] Listen, if you stay ready.
The shower, you can fit multiple people.
[Ra'ed] I wanna be able
to sing and dance in my shower.
My neighbors hear. I'm just that queen
Mariah. Are you a fucking Mariah queen?
[Steve] Yes, of course, I'm a lamb so
-Ahh!
-This guy.
It's kismet time.
It's kismet! I love it.
It's serendipity, I would say.
-Okay, enough.
-[Robert] As she fills it up.
-Here we go.
-Cheers.
-Cheers.
-Thank you.
-Thank you, guys.
-All right.
Okay.
-Richard, do you want a shot?
-Are you as flexible as Richard?
[laughter]
It'll take some time,
but yeah, I get there.
[laughter]
So Devon, when you heard
that Steve had met a couple at a dog park,
and we wanted you to come
to Connecticut, what did you think?
-I was, like, "Here we go again."
-[Robert] Really?
[laughing]
-[Robert] That's how I always am.
-You guys have an open relationship.
Um, not completely.
Did y'all have a moment where
you were like, "This is what I like"?
"This is what I want.
This is what I need to be happy"?
What's funny is I feel
we've had several moments like that.
We, at least annually, have, like,
a sit-down for real conversation.
-Like, a check-in.
-[Robert] A check-in?
-We're trying to talk about
-We're figuring it out.
What am I comfortable with basically?
Because he's open to anything.
I think my biggest thing was him meeting
somebody that he likes more than me
and being upset about that. But, um
No, I feel the same way.
And so part of my fear
was, why are you with me
if you wanna be with everyone else?
It's sometimes embarrassing.
There's no question
that this is the love of my life.
I don't want him uncomfortable. I'll do
everything to make him comfortable.
Devon, let me ask you, do you partake
in the open side of the relationship?
I know the answer for Steven.
So I'm not asking you.
[chuckling]
Not Not really. Not as much.
-Devon and Robert have a lot in common.
-We're very similar.
I'm definitely nervous and definitely
I have I feel less in control.
Mm-hmm.
-We can try.
-[Robert] You can try.
-I'm trying now.
-[Ra'ed] I'm trying.
That's what partnership is all about.
[Robert] This has been
a really good night.
Steven and Devon are definitely farther
along in their open relationship journey.
But I'm really relieved to hear that
they've gone through the same issues,
and I'm inspired that
they've been able to make it work.
They're a beautiful and happy couple.
What I'm realizing is, if you love someone
and you're committed,
you find a way to make it work.
So I might be open to the idea
of hooking up,
which is not at all what I expected.
Well, I think it's nice to see
that it's an ongoing conversation.
Can we have a cheers
to open gay modern relationships?
-To new friends.
-[Steve] Thank you so much for having us.
-Cheers.
-[Devon] You guys are so sweet.
-[Ra'ed] You guys are so sweet
-[Robert] Cheers.
[Ra'ed] How about we play truth or dare.
Take it off!
[Robert] We'll see.
-[Ra'ed] We'll see! [vocal riff]
-[Robert] Let the tequila take its effect.
[upbeat music playing]
[Julia] Yum!
What is this?
This is a beef pot pie,
and it's made with the kosher puff pastry.
-[Aron] Thank you.
-Thank you, Chris.
-Thanks, Chris.
-This looks amazing.
-Does look good. Should we dig in?
-[Julia] Yeah. Let's dig in.
What's going on? You were telling me about
this business that you're trying to do.
What's going on? How can I help?
Yes, I make videos.
Inspirational Jewish videos.
Trying to get people
to have a greater connection. Hashem.
If you want to,
you should intern with a producer.
You can really learn great skills
that you can then use in your company.
-I don't really have the time.
-You don't have the time? Are you curious?
-No.
-[Julia] No?
What do you wanna do this summer?
Israel.
Are you gonna go on the traveling camp
with your friends?
No.
So where do you wanna stay?
With Bubbe and Poppy.
With Bubbe?
Aron visits my parents.
And on one hand that's great.
I want him to have a relationship with
his grandparents, but on the other hand,
these are people who won't speak to me,
who won't acknowledge my existence
because I'm not religious.
And I live a very irreligious lifestyle.
So it kind of hurts that
that doesn't bother him at all.
The other thing about it that worries me
is being around them.
That's just going to reinforce
that extremist version of Judaism.
I've already lost the rest of my family,
except for my children,
because of religion.
And I'm really scared
that I'm gonna lose Aron too.
[sucks teeth]
Um
What's going on in school? Catch me up.
School is good. My friends are good.
[Julia chuckles] School is good.
Friends are good. Good!
Are you happy where you are?
Now I'm happy,
but I'd rather be in a different school.
You'd rather be in a different,
a more religious school?
Yeah.
I want to be an educator.
I want to be a teacher.
This is the lifestyle I want to live.
-You wanna be a rebbe?
-Yeah, I wanna be a teacher.
You don't wanna go to college?
I never said I wouldn't go to college.
Many rabbis went to college.
So you realize that you were coming
in a more modern direction,
where you were still frum
and keeping Shabbos, which is beautiful.
But you were also gonna go
to a real college.
You wanted to live
a more mixed kind of life.
And now you wanna be
a rebbe like my brothers.
You don't wanna go to a real college.
-I'll
-It's all about Torah for you now.
You realize that that is a big shift.
Yeah, I do.
Right now, my state of happiness
is due solely to my Judaism.
-My religious faith.
-Nothing to do with family?
Obviously, I love my family.
I'm very appreciative
that I have a mother like you.
[Julia] And your siblings?
I'm saying my level of happiness
would be very different,
if it wasn't my would be on a lower level
if it wasn't for my Judaism.
You may be even happier
or have a different sense of happiness
if you allow yourself
to open up to new ideas, like,
just think about this for a second. Miriam
is your sister.
-Mm-hmm.
-And she is a lesbian.
-Mm-hmm.
-In our world, that's bad.
I mean, Abba used to say
to Miriam all the time,
he talks about this openly,
"Miriam, you can't play sports."
"You can't sing because a man
might have bad thoughts about you."
There's in the Gemara talks
about why can't a woman sing?
Because a man can hear her voice
and get attracted to her
and have bad thoughts about her.
So my question to you is,
do you actually believe that a woman
is responsible for men's thoughts?
Or that men can control themselves?
That was a part that killed me
tznius thing.
So you are living in a society
that thinks what your mother does is bad.
That I uncover my hair. I walk around
like I walk around. I'm not tznius.
You have a sister who acts
in a way that in that world is also bad,
shamayim.
The world you live in, looks at the people
who are part of your family as bad people.
How can you defend that, my love?
I believe that the Torah
is God-given laws.
So if this is what God says, I believe it.
So you think it's okay?
I'll speak to my rebbe,
see what he says.
But you know the halachas.
Do you think you have your own mind.
What do you think? Do you think it's just?
As I said before, I believe in the Torah.
If this is what the Torah entitles,
then yes, I do.
The laws say that a woman
cannot be a rabbi. Is that correct or not?
There is a lot of inequity
towards women in that world, my love.
And saying, "Oh well,
I guess that's fine, because
if that's what Hashem wants,
then it's not inequity."
But I want you to think.
Today, it's still the law, my love,
that a woman can't get a divorce.
Her husband can slap her,
hang her off the apartment window,
and she still can't divorce him.
Do you think a law where women
cannot get divorced for any reason,
but a man can divorce a woman without
her permission, do you think that's just?
-Yes.
-You do. Okay.
-We can't change halacha.
-Can't change the law.
So you're saying the law is just?
-You asked me this question 20 times.
-So tell me one more time.
-The law is Wait for it.
-Yeah?
Wait for it just.
Mm-hmm.
You'll have to acknowledge
that the Aron of last summer
and the Aron of now is not the same Aron.
-I miss that Aron.
-Welp.
-I miss that Aron
-Too bad you can't love me for me.
What?
Too bad you can't love me
for the sake of me.
-What does that mean?
-You said, "I miss the old Aron."
-You mean I miss you having fun.
-I'm having fun.
[tense music playing]
I know that I gotta stay strong now ♪
Even though it feels
Like I don't know how ♪
They tear me down ♪
I get right up, hey ♪
No one's gonna catch me
Drop my crown today ♪
Come on solid
Make it count and I will see the day ♪
Every time I get knocked down
I level up and play ♪
Don't take it all so personal ♪
I'm just that way, invincible ♪
Hey ♪
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